Narcissistic Abuse: An Unspoken Reality (Short Documentary)

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  2. My adult daughter is a narcissist. My ex (who is bi-polar) never refused her anything. She was the golden girl. I am unable to have an adult relationship with her. It makes me so very sad. I babysat her large puppy dog 5 mos for 10 days. Lovely dog, but he drained me with his antics, long walks, dogpark visits, special food I made for him, two baths, etc. I found several foxtails and burrs in his paws, and trimmed the foot pads and then pulled them all out. They were very tangled in that matted hair.

    I drove 45 miles each way to pick him up and drop him off. The puppy dog was shiny and clean, and so well cared for. First words out of my daughter's mouth was, "You trimmed his feet! I told you not to trim anything on him! You betrayed my trust! I will never let you have my dog again!" In fact, she had begged me to take him in the first place. Free dog sitting and I saved the dogs life. Those foxtails were deeply embedded in the skin. She stormed off with the dog, who kept looking back at me since I spent more time with him than she did. I had not seen my daughter in months, and had just done a ton of unpaid work for her prior to this. I watched her and the dog walk into the distance, and felt my heart would just break. I could not even say goodbye to the dog who was just a pup and so confused. I could see her using a child in the same way against me.

    I felt so disturbed by this. What did I do to create a child like this? I think her father spoiled her rotten, and since we were divorced, I had no say over this. Like a knife in my heart. I feel broken by the loss of my child. She is gone forever. This much I know. There is no way she will every change. She breaks everything. Her dog, her love life, her own body as well, since she has cancer now. I think this rage eats into her. So much work polishing the little gems that became my successful children. Now to see her in this broken personality state. Life is cruel.

  3. "[Narcissists are] like psychological ninjas trying to dodge the laser beams of responsibility"… Holy shit! I have NEVER heard it described so accurately! Brilliant!!

  4. "They can be saying something nice, and you feel threatened." Exactly. Do not ever seek revenge, it is not worth it. However, if you switch your mindset to self-protection, which every narc does all the time, you may be able to succeed in escaping and healing. What does that mean? Well, that means you compile evidence of their abuse and debauchery regardless of the narc's whining and accusing you of betraying them. It is not revenge to protect yourself, and the only way to do that with a narc is to have SOMETHING that will hurt them. You don't have to use the evidence and hurt them over it. It helps A LOT in keeping a narc in line during an escape.
    I compiled folders both material and digital, sent it to multiple sources online that could never be found and destroyed., and then let him know what I had in an ambiguous and threatening way, so he would believe 100% that even if he hurt me, even if he killed me, and even if he convinced every person on the planet that I was the crazy lunatic he portrayed me to be, that information on him would live on.
    At one point. before I got him out a year ago on a restraining order, I knew he was trying to sniff out my ammunition against him, and I looked him dead in the eye and said, "I have sent every text, every picture, every statement, every bank account record to other emails and friends. I couldn't even erase it all if I tried, so there is no way in hell you will ever get them all. And most importantly, other people have been sent the same, so you could kill me and it still won't change anything. You can get that zipdrive or find that cloud account and hack it (which he did), and it will still not go away."
    I am pretty sure that if I hadn't done that, I would not be sitting here today. He killed my cats., sabotaged the brakes on my vehicle, and abducted my dog, deactivated her microchip and took her tag. Luckily I got my baby pooch back, but only because I texted him right when she vanished and told him I know he did it. And, he was supposedly at work at the time, but I also got the phone records from that time and for some reason he was hotspotting to his phone when his work has WiFi.
    I am not encouraging fighting a narc. But the narc will fight you. At least get some kind of ammunition, keep it hidden, and record or write down every fucking thing. It may save your life, even if you don't have to use it. Nothing is more valuable to a true narc than his ability to gain supply. THey know that if they are exposed, especially in this day and age of social media, that it will hinder their supply sources. I use it. But I am not out of the woods yet. But I don't think I would be this far without gathering shit on him, and letting him know, it will not end with me. If something happens to me, that shit will be a nail in his coffin. At least I have that.

  5. When your 16 until ur late 20's I can honestly say I didn't know what was wrong with him!!! I just knew something was wrong!! With me and my son that was true, I would try to mend the abuse between us all!! The perfect image, when my world was a shit show!!😖 It has been the hardest 11 years of my life, and I believe my mom and step dad were all also Narcs!!

  6. Hey, when I left my husband after 7 yrs 1/1 2012 with my life I searched and found Sam Vaknin and listen to him for 8 hrs that help me so much I sought help after. I am still healing, Now 7-1/2 yrs later Thank you 2019! All this is true -rip -the part of life with him/that. ….

  7. I recall when I first saw this-it was so validating that I wasn’t alone. I’d been married to a covert for two decades, who’d nearly destroyed me, and after the divorce, fell for an overt who defrauded me. Female narcs, I believe, are more dangerous and they’re everywhere.

  8. It's good that this video is available. I once worked for a seriously narcissistic film producer. She was slyly abusive to anyone who did not fit her idea of perfect: A blonde, young pretty girl or guy. Everybody else was bait or fair game unless they were famous, rich or influential in the film world. She had a daughter who had tried to commit suicide more than once. At the time, before I worked for the woman on a day to day basis, I couldn't understand that. But then I became extremely knowledgeable about this type of personality. She gave me "idiot" work to do that took days, just because she didn't like me. She didn't like me because I didn't compliment her or show unending admiration every hour of the day. When I once let her know that her hem on a skirt was torn she gave me more shit work to do than I can even describe. Her other daughter was my very best, closest friend for four years, to the extent that we saw each other every single day. When I told the daughter what her mother had been doing the daughter cut me off without a word. That was almost 30 years ago. I reached out to her a few months ago but she wouldn't speak to me. Narcissism in families is incredibly destructive and reaches many members, affecting not just the one who is narcissistic.

  9. I am moving forward finally with a restraining order followed by divorce with my 5 year old involved. Poor baby, if anyone has advice, I’d really appreciate it. It’s been hard, listening to Lisa Romano, Ross Rosenberg, George Simon along with Joe Dispenza, Bill Lipton among others to reprogram my f’d up Brian. Rich, may I call u Dick?(dad’s name:) you’re really doing something special!

  10. Prayer helps a lot! A friend of mine was terribly abused by a sociopath/ narc. She prayed everyday that God would take him . After 10 years of her being abused , the a hole dropped dead

  11. They are evil, self loathing, creatures. If they weren't so pathetic it'd be funny. It is NOT FUNNY, they aren't very intelligent, they never have original thought, they parrot shit.

  12. As soon as she wouldn't stop calling herself a choleric while labeling me as a melancholic I knew there was something wrong.

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  14. It's so funny to me how narcissists perpetuate this "you'll die if you expose me" or "you can never outsmart a narc" agenda. Its crap, they are master manipulators but can be defeated with facts, hard evidence, courage and consistency. Keep journal and evidence in case you ever have to go toe to toe with one of these demons.

  15. Funny for that piece os garbage saying that about Trump…Goes to show they are on opposite sides…Thank you for that!

  16. This is exactly like the toxic relationship i was in. I had to flee the country to finally get away from him. The man who is open about his narcissism is just like my ex. He openly admitted to being narcissistic like was proud of it, saying stuff like “I’m narcissistic because I AM a king. I AM a genius. I AM better than any man you will ever meet.” In his mind narcissism was a god given quality reserved only for the greatest men. When that man kept saying “I believe that’s what you believe” to the woman trying to ask a question, shivers went down my spine. Idk how many times I heard those exact words from my ex. We never had a single productive conversation. He refused to have anything but a one sided conversation or he’d become angry. I’m stronger now though. I’m married to a kind and humble man and will soon be welcoming our first baby. He will never know what it is like to be in a truly loving healthy relationship. The only love he will ever know is the love he has for the person he thinks he is. In that way, I pity him.

  17. My manager did that, when I started to drift I was let go. But then I was in deep depression for losing all that the attention I had gotten along with being a punch bag in which I thought she is going through problems and I must be at mistake or she'll change.

  18. I have a lifetime of NARC HUSBANDS 3 they got wkrse worse over a 30 yr period. I went to outpatient therapy for 4 mos for coda and am in recovery but not able to trust or be even attracted to men anymore i have my big doberman now thank god

  19. I'm dealing with this. He dumped me in May and came back in July. I made the mistake of responding to his text after 15 days. I was honestly going back and forth with if I would respond. I shouldn't have because I had worked really hard during may and June to forget about him. Made great headway, then he contacts me back, friend-zones me and then I become a wreck. I now have texted him today, because he did the silent treatment after initially contacting me. He responds and treats me like an associate and there goes the trigger. It never ends.

    I'm thinking of changing my number. I don't know if that will help me. I want to forget about him. I want him out of my mind.

    I want this to all stop now. When he came back he never even apologized or mentioned the breakup. I'm so emotional right now.

  20. I can relate to all of this because my so called biological parents are like this and
    I have ADHD and I have Minor mental retardation or do I have MMR or is it a lie ?

  21. Its alot easier to stand up for yourself and start to move on when you know what you're dealing with…I went for over 22 years before I realized he had this problem…and everything makes way more sense…I know it's not a diagnosis but I know enough about psychology/psychiatry to know I can only heal my side in this situation…and I feel like I can deal with him better til I make my escape!! I'm only 2 weeks away and I get to start over!! Yea!!!

  22. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for being here and making this knowledge available to me. I have been learning so much and never thought anyone could understand. This is changing my life. Growing pains are better than love bombs!!!

  23. Richard …. you and others, including Sam lol have saved me.
    If not for you, Kim Saeed, Meredith Miller and more, I would still be living in what was an empty and dark world.

  24. 5:19 dude fuck that shit, self absorbed cowardly bitch excuse of a human…they are parasites, let them fucking starve to death…GTFO and live YOUR OWN FUCKING LIFE

  25. 15:47 anything you give them is was and forever will be ammo for them to use against you. they will never change. more importantly, they have always been that way. GTFO.

  26. Hi Richard. Just wanted to drop you a line as you were one of the few English people that started talking about NPD. I only found about it after I left my abuser a couple of years ago. I have had different sorts of concealing but nothing helped. As you may know finding a NPD specialist is like a mission impossible. I just wanted to thank you for opening my eyes to what was really happening to me. I was unable to prove anything in the court as the judges on the day decided that a fact finding hearing wasn’t going to help them. (The Narc was fitting to take my children of me). So after the hardest fight i have to coparent with him. My heart is broken into peace’s and words can not describe what I am feeling. Did this really happen? I do get to wonder…

  27. Stay prayed up!! That is the way to heal!! Put God first in your life, let his voice be the one your listening to. This to shall pass, it will….😇💖

  28. This is what ems gems has done with help use my own world to twist and bully be . She is a narcissist sociopath !!! I am broken 2 years of it … calling her out of her fake cancer !!! And all the other crap .. and yes it is true. Fighting back don’t work ! It makes it worse . I am alone . I said I was leaving now a place that i thought I would fit in , but all I found was groups of narcissistic pepole , who run the venerable down and beat them till they can’t take any more …. i have wanted to kill myslf , and last night I have panic attackes. Please watch. Ems gems. You will see there is no emotion. Just plain as she makes up lies and half truths twisting them …. i am lost and broken … I will go back to being alone at least I never felt tnis way like I am some awfel person. Because I am not … I have watched you and others to know who she is , but I am not start enough to fight back I just make it worse .. yes I make dolls . It’s art so please don’t Judge me . It’s theropy for me . As I do suffer From depression and axyity….. I was her target and I did not see it coming … now. Pepole i cared for attack me with her … all narcissistic .. I see that now . I have autism please help me I beg. She is a fake in every word.. I am alone .. I may end my life over this .. am dark now

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  30. My mother would never admit to being a narcissist. She is always right and nothing wrong with her. I'm the defective one

  31. this was a repeat of my 20 year marriage. now I know. giving more receiving less/time to liberate/I may lose my life as I know it/it will undoubtedly shift/but ultimately I will and am being liberated and I will be living in my truth

  32. Los Alamos New Mexico is one of the worst. The town is full of all these types. The community is hateful, bigoted, manipulative and homophobic. They do nothing but gossip and backstab everyone and it doesn't seem anyone is off limits, even their friends. The people don't seem to have any sense of conscience or loyalty to anything that really matter. Just a horrible, greedy little town.

  33. why is that woman crying? water off a ducks back and giving the narc exactly the reaction he wants. stupid woman.

  34. I wish I was informed/told about narcissism when I was young. Understand this, a narcissist is an impaired person. You wouldn't be upset with your grandma that has dementia and can't recall your name right? Or your grandpa that can't hear you because his hearing is impaired right? Or someone who is color blind and can't see the color red right? because they're impaired, follow? AND KNOW THIS!! a narcissist goes thru life as though they are playing the game show Survivor or like a Gold-digger. A narc thinks that if you are stupid/weak enough to let yourself be walked on or treated so terribly then it is your fault for letting them treat you so bad 🤯 (Read that again until you learn/got it) They will use you to move themselves forward until something or someone better that has more to offer comes along and/or when you are no longer any use to them (or you want to leave them) they will without remorse move on/away from you because they don't have (literally don't have) a love type attachment to you 😬. And we are shocked and hurt that we didn't mean as much to them, after all we've done for them, we wasted years and jumped through hoops due to their constant challenges for us to show we are worthy of them (sound familiar? like a Gold- digger 😬) So now that you know a narcissist is impaired… Don't take the hurtful terrible things they will say to you personally or as a truth ok? They are impaired they can't love and therefore won't be loved as I know how to love which is actually sad for them. They will say hurtful painful things (that aren't true so don't take them personally) to you because they expect to be worshipped by you, and you are no longer worshipping them, and they want to make you pay for your insolence, make sense? The narc is impaired, incapable of a loving attachment… Now you go be happy, be your best you, don't look or think back, and go love your awesome self and possibly go find someone who does know how to love you. Hope this perspective helps some people.

  35. When I was married to my sicko. Narc. I told him how happy I was that my roses are ready to. Bloom!!! Later I looked and the moron cut them down to 3 inch twigs!!! He told me he pruned them. With a evil smile!!! Ugh. Soo happy I'm free and. Want others not to suffer

  36. Great to see a narcissists point of view..very refreshing that he admits to it and accepts it and talks about it openly.

  37. You will have the whole picture soon about the narc networks following and harassing people called 'gangstalking' grown into an epidemic! Thank you!

  38. You dont have to destroy peoples lives just so YOU can keep yr narsassistic supply, thats pure evil! 👉 REPENT 👈

  39. I wonder if there is much information and support for children born to narcissists. Unfortunately for me and my siblings, my father is a narcissist…and a terrible one at that. We have begged for our lives on more occassions than we can count and sadly, one of my siblings did not make it out of that house alive. My mum and us have been traumatized all our lives and continue to be traumatized daily by this man who quite frankly has still shown no remoarse. We didnt even realise that he was a narcissist until we started going to therapy after my brother's death. My mum seems too traumatized to move away from him and I think in her mind, she feels she is protecting us by staying, yet we are all adults and living away from home…so we are stuck!!! The therapist suggested we look into narcisist victim syndrome to start to understand our situation better.

  40. It’s hard to believe the narcissists I knew (I knew two people who I think were narcissists) had been abused as children, because they never admit flaws in themselves or their lives.
    However, I completely understand why some of these people in your doc want to be censored because they punishment they inflict for revealing their truth on even a micro level is real. I am even afraid of leaving this comment and might delete it later.

  41. I hope this isn't me I have compassion on people that have been hurt or aren't doing well I do think I am but a fair assessment is needed because narcissistic people burn with pain and shame I have been hurt by narssacistic pastors I do have borderline though some traits here do apply I hope I can get help one day

  42. No One honestly deserves to be cheated on at any circumstance or be with a Narcissist or someone gaslighting them this is the reason why we have failed relationships last month I suspected my wife cheating on me a friend recommended an hacker to me on instagram @mikeswilfred I contacted him and he helped me get cheating proves by helping me hack her phone giving me full access to everything she does on her phone if you suspect your spouse cheating on you text/whatsapp him +15182175945 he would help you out he his so trustworthy and reliable

  43. Just some tech notes on video: subtitles in certain parts would enhance the viewers experience as audio is lacking clarity in parts. Good content.

  44. See how the gal was triggered by just knowing this information that some like to cause harm..She really needs to work on not being overly emotional when she learns information like this.

  45. Fluctuates constantly❗️
    Addicted to attention and adoration then you have to look up to them 🙄
    Wonderful at the beginning and then you’re just blown away, they gave what you want which is like cinderella dream thing until mask starts to fall❗️THEY HAVE NO LOVE TO OFFER

  46. I was adopted by people like this so I grew up around it. I have always been afraid I’ll be just like that with my future kids one day. I’m expecting my first in January and I am doing everything I can to not repeat the same cycle that gave me PTSD

  47. During our last argument I asked narc "Why would you want to be with someone who no longer loves you?" he replied "That's not of your concern, MY concern is that I really love you and you need to get better" implying that I was too mentally ill to make decisions without his input.

  48. Oh my God- biggest eye opener since I met my narcissist!! I kept wondering if he is doing things deliberately and came to the conclusion that he probably doesn't, he's just a wounded person going about trying to find love in all the wrong ways (not knowing what he calls love is not love). But oh my God, was I wrong!! I just couldn't fathom someone could be so deliberately cruel…Thanks so much to the NPD speaking up !!

  49. Took me 2 years but I am happier and free. Ex devil is doing the same thing to other women. Take care of yourself, this will pass, God is with us. Lots of love and be strong !

  50. You have helped so many people richard this video is heart breaking and I take my hat off to you … deserve a knighthood my friend

  51. Great video, very informative. My father had NPD. As a child I felt very guilty because I hated him. He did tremendous damage to my ego, my self esteem, caused horrible trauma that I am still dealing with more than 50 years later. He is dead now and I still hate him, and I don't feel guilty about it. I will always hate him for what he did to me and my siblings.

  52. Narcissists are trying to show people what happened to them as children they cannot escape the voices in their head of their abuse it went on for god-knows-how-long so they have to show you by making you feel what they feel, they feel it everyday they relive the abuse everyday they are still at the age of their abuse mentally and emotionally so you're not dealing with a grown-up you're dealing with a child who is still mentally fighting their abusers. All the other emotions that they feel 90% of it is negativity towards themselves they really hate themselves they've been trained to hate their self and they hate the fact that you as a normal person don't suffer the way they do you were not abused you were loved and care for something they will never experience. As adults they will never believe in love they will never believe in kindness they think everyone is lying to them this was their training as a child love is pain because when they were told they were loved by their caregivers pain followed and some form or another. So you cannot tell a narcissist I love you because they look at it as you saying I hate you.

  53. "by force or by guile you will play this game with me" THIS! When you realize that this is the narc's game (of abuse and destruction), it's time to pack up and never look back.

  54. I had TWO narcissistic parents and then a whole family full of them. It set me up for a lifetime of being battered brutally in every way possible. I’ve lost an eye, been in a wheelchair from extreme mental trauma (conversion disorder), been in atrocious living situations, jobs, with a alcoholic, sociopathic partner and more. It got me living in mental institutions and E.R.’s from constant suicide attempts. I was always an empath and I wouldn’t want to be a narcissist for anything. To inflict that much harm and pain on another living being is unthinkable to me. I still hope that they are somehow paid back for what they do to others. Ideally they should not be allowed to live in society and confined to mental institutions or jails.

  55. Amazing documentary!! Very honest and informative, I’m sure this will have helped a lot of people who’ve watched it!!!

  56. I dont think there is necessarily abuse in childhood. Extreme spoiling king baby or queen baby the golden child all entitled. That too is a possibility – in such cases there is no abuse.

  57. I had to move to another state, I packed my things in a few hours bought a uhaul and left him. As I left I was dying inside remembering the good times thinking I could possibly change him. It’s been 3 years and I’m healed but I cried and aloud myself to understand it’s not me it was him.

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